by BrijBrand Contributor, Stacy D. Fehlinger

Many college students have grown up in the era of the internet and cell phones.

You have been bombarded with not only the TV and movies version of what a “healthy” person should look like, but also YouTube and other social media platforms images of models and celebrities.

You are also the 1st generation that has had to deal with cyber bullies. There are some really hateful and negative things people can say to other people.

With all these images and negativity, it’s no wonder why young people today have such a hard time accepting the way they look.

I’m here to tell you, that it’s just not the young people who suffer from body image issues.

I’m going to age myself here, but I didn’t grow up with the internet or cell phones. Even without all of the other media of today, I was still affected by the images I saw in my favorite magazines when I was your age. I read Cosmo like it was the bible!

I was constantly discouraged looking at the women or should I say very young girls that graced the pages of the magazines I read.

During my late teens and through most of my 20’s, I had a weight problem and seeing those pictures made me feel really self-conscious about my own body.

Of course, we later learned that those skinny models and even the celebrities were airbrushed and the pictures were photoshopped.

The media may never learn to just let models and celebrities show their actual imperfections, although I really hope one day they come to their senses!


Here are 4 tips to help you boost your body confidence:

  1. Change Your Language – We are all guilty of looking in the mirror and saying, “Why does my _______ look so big?” Admit it, you’ve thought some part of your body was too big.I’ve had to learn to embrace my family inherited thighs. We all have them on my mom’s side of the family. I’ll admit I’m still trying to fully embrace my thighs, by trying not to be so self-conscious about their bumpy appearance. When you start to have those negative thoughts about your body, redirect your thoughts and focus on a part of your body or a certain facial feature that you like. With redirecting your thoughts you stop self-sabotaging and instantly improve your mood.
  1. Show Yourself a Little Love – Pamper yourself by having a full body massage, facial, mani or pedi , or buy yourself a new outfit. Nothing boosts confidence as much as when you feel good about yourself and are calm and relaxed. (Those little negative thoughts won’t creep up as much.)
  1. Change Your Mind – By this I mean mindset – People typically have either a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. If you are constantly putting yourself down, then you more than likely fit into the fixed mindset category. Once you recognize the fixed mindset you can change it by recognizing fixed mindset thinking, reframing the negative thoughts to positive thoughts and taking action to correct the negative thinking. You can take action by either writing down your thoughts, or deciding to limit your exposure to certain media outlets that lead you down the path of negative self-talk.
  1. Have a Mantra – you can use the suggestions I share or come up with you own positive affirmations. Say or write the following several times: I am enough! I am beautiful/gorgeous! I love how strong my body is and what it can do! Then, it’s important to practice believing what you affirm.

Even if you want to shed a few pounds, you can be confident in your current body and love yourself right now.

Embrace your flaws and the very special person you are today and everyday!


Stacy Fehlinger is the owner and founder of Healthy & Fit 4 Life. Stacy is a Certified Health Coach and teaches her clients what she calls “The Real Food Lifestyle.” You can connect with her on Facebook or through her website. She’ll keep you informed about all things healthy including the L.E.A.N. principle an acronym for Lifestyle, Exercise, Attitude and Nutrition – the four key areas that affect the way you think, how you feel and how you relate to others.


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