Are you in control of time?
Is time in control of you?
Being willing to examine your relationship with time is the first step to understanding how to create time, yes, create it, so you can use it to get more of what you want.
In his book, University of Success, Og Madino includes Lesson 22, “How to Cherish and Use the Magic of Time.” In this lesson, he references the writings of Arnold Bennett and Arthur Brisbane. The former authored the book, How to Live On Twenty-Four Hours a Day (1910) and the latter provided a lesson based on the book, Elbert Hubbard’s Scrapbook (1923). Bennett writes,
The supply of time is truly a daily miracle, an affair genuinely astonishing when one examines it. You wake up in the morning, and lo! Your purse is magically filled with twenty-four hours of the unmanufactured tissue of the universe of your life! It is yours. It is the most precious of possessions. A highly singular commodity, showered upon you in a manner as singular as the commodity itself! No one can take it from you. It is unstealable. And no one receives either more or less than you receive.
In sum, he’s suggesting that time is the one thing that we all possess in equal quantity and no one can take it away from us.
The rich have no more than the poor and the successful have no more than the unsuccessful. Brisbane also summarizes time as a possession when he writes,
Time is the one thing we possess. Our success depends upon the use of our time, and its by-product, the odd moment. Each of us has a regular day’s work that he does in a routine, more or less mechanical, way. He does his clerking, his writing, his typewriting, or whatever it may be, so many hours per day. And that ends it. But what about the by-product, the odd moments? Do you know that the [people] that have made great successes in this world are the [people] who have used wisely those odd moments?
Brisbane speaks of “odd moments,” the by-product of our time used in our routine pursuits related to work. It seems reasonable to conclude that he’s referring to the 960 minutes that remain after our typical eight-hour workday.
If we set aside 480 minutes for sleep (the coveted eight hours of sleep that we’re encouraged to get each night), we are left with 480 minutes of “odd moments.”
Reading the words of these gentlemen, written a century ago, got me to thinking about time.
What is time, really?
Why is it so important in our lives?
Where does time come from?
Are we enslaved to it?
Can we get control of it?
I thought briefly about time – the word, its meaning and the concept of it – and how it permeates every aspect of our existence. Time appears on our cell phones, iPods , tablets and computers; we wear watches; we have clocks in our homes, cars, offices, and on the buildings that we drive by on our way to our destination; time’s presence is EVERYWHERE.
It’s no wonder that we’re obsessed with it – it’s taken hostage of our thoughts, feelings, emotions, and behavior.
Our language drips with references to time. Time’s presence lurks in every crack and crevice of our existence. How many times have you used the following phrases? “I don’t have time.” “Time flies by so quickly.” “Where does the time go?” “When you get older, time seems to fly by so much faster.” “If I could just get a few more hours in the day, I’d get so much more done.” “I am a slave to time.” “I need more time.” “No time, I’m too busy.” “I’ll get to that when I have a little more time.” “There just aren’t enough hours in the day.” I’ve used many of these phrases. Given some thought, I am sure you can come up with even more of your own references to time.
Considering the above, I posed the following questions: Do we really possess time? Can time really fly? Where does time go? Does time speed up? Does time have the power to enslave us? Does time run and hide when we are too busy? Is time to blame when we procrastinate? Is time not doing its job and not producing enough of itself so that we can get things done? It seems that we’ve become conditioned to believe that time controls our lives. Has time become our master and we its willing slaves?
In the quotes above, both authors suggest that we do possess time. But, I don’t have literal possession of time, do you?
I consulted good ol’ Webster.com, which defines time as a nonspatial continuum that is measured in terms of events which succeed one another from past through present to future; an appointed, fixed, or customary moment or hour for something to happen, begin, or end; and finite as contrasted with infinite duration. These were just a few among tens of other definitions related to “time.”
OK, I’ve posed some basic questions about time, I’ve considered a few perspectives about time and its impact on our lives, I’ve reviewed with acute awareness our nonsensical language around time, I’ve tried to define time, and I’ve considered my own relationship with time.
Many have written much on this subject since the two authors above penned their words, but an explanation of time that best aligns with what I’ve discovered is that described in the book, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level. In his book, Gay Hendricks contrasts “Newtonian” time with “Einstein” time.
To summarize briefly, the “Newtonian” view of time suggests that there is a finite amount of time that we need to divvy out to have enough. “Newtonian” time promises that there is always too much or too little. We’re either short on time or watching time slowly creep by. Most of us seem to be living at one of the two extremes.
Basically, we are conditioned to believe that time is out there.
It is the master and we are its slave.
“Einstein” time, on the other hand, suggests that we take control of our time and realize that we are where time comes from.
With this view, we embrace the liberating insight that we are the producers of time, which means that we can make as much as we want. This helps us create a thought pattern shift from scarcity to abundance and possibility.
Time is not out there, we are not victims of time, we are the source of time. By affirming that we are the source of time, we take responsibility for our lives.
When we embrace the reality that we are the source of time, we shift our thinking and align our behavior with this understanding, it’s as if time is magically created.
He suggests doing the following:
- Take responsibility; begin with time itself and do whatever it takes to get to the reality that you are the source of time and begin acting as if it is true.
- Put yourself on a radical diet to stop complaining about time, which will take you out of the victim position – you are no longer the victim and time is no longer the persecutor.
- Changing your language around time is also important in moving from scarcity to abundance. For example, eliminate the statement, “I don’t have time to do that right now.” What we’re really doing is politely lying to avoid saying what we really don’t want to do at the time.
My experience with this thought shift supports the belief that time is not a possession that we can have or not have.
By changing our thoughts about time, we can change our lives and open ourselves to the possibilities of getting more of what we want to experience.
Check out Hendricks’s book, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level. In addition to his summary of time, he touches on many other juicy tidbits to get you moving in your desired direction of more creativity, more love, more abundance, and more success.
My favorite is the audio version, it’s a great listen when you’re zipping around in your car!
Robbi Crawford, The Student’s Mentor, Author and Speaker is the founder of BrijBrand. Subscribe below and join the BrijBrand community. We’ll keep you in the loop about what we’re building for YOU, and create a safe place to land when you’re feeling stuck, need a plan, and want some targeted help and genuine support!